Michelle Obama’s smile helped me accept mine

For so long my smile has been my insecurity. It's not straight, it's not perfect. I had a guy tell me he'd be with me if it was straight and perfect. You know when you're breaking up and you yell all the bad things you've been holding on to. I wore braces from 8th grade…

How being black in Phoenix made me love my culture more

In a city full of 1,626,078 people only 108,846 are Black or African American. In the county, Maricopa, where all major cities including Phoenix settle in there's 4.24 million people and only 221,266 are Black or African American. I spent 30 years of my life growing up in Atlanta, a city that's full of 486,290…

Rain is rare in Phoenix, enjoy it while you can

I woke up this morning, sat on the wooden stool on the back porch of my house and just watched the rain fall. It rarely rains in Arizona, outside of monsoon season. The temperature has dropped to a perfect 57 degrees. Cold water filled my chest as I crunched on a piece of ice. No…

Boy Crazy: You don’t need a man to be whole

We've all been there. Dancing in the middle of the club with your head on the swivel trying to see who's checking you out. Or how about my fave, getting dressed up to go sit at a bar and hope Prince Charming "randomly" sits next to you and sweeps you off your feet. Been there.…

Best beauty supply stores in Phoenix for black hair care

The struggle to find hair care products for my hair in Phoenix has been stressful. When moving from the east coast to the west, there's A LOT to adjust to including the weather and the culture of the area. "It's a dry heat" EVERYONE and their mom told me. What they didn't tell me was…

10 tips for moving across the country

Originally from Atlanta I recently moved from "Tha A" to North Carolina, now I'm living in Phoenix, Arizona. Here are some tips I have if you plan to move across the country.   1. Get your credit score up.   When I moved to North Carolina in 2015 it was similar to living in Georgia.…

What to do when you’ve been ghosted

If you've never been ghosted before, lucky you. Ghosting is...how do I describe this...ghosting is...horrible! It's not limited to this definition but basically it's when you've been dating someone, everything is fine then out of the blue they just disappear...like you never knew them. Like a ghost. People have a lot of reasons for why…