Get you someone who inspires you to be your best self

I always joke, “I’m just a girl looking for some bridesmaids” I laugh but I have found them, and some. In relationships and friendships surround yourself with people who want to see you at your best. They encourage you to stay on a goal you’ve set, keep it real with you when no one else […]

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10 Love songs you should listen to in first person

My journey to self-love isn’t complete without my first love, music. I was driving in the car the other day and discovered something amazing. Instead of singing the song TO someone else, I flipped the lyrics to sing about myself. This comes in handy especially with love songs. We all don’t have someone to dedicate […]

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How to be single and happy

It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it. Being single and happy is work. Especially in a world where love and relationships seem to be the ultimate goal in life. The hours you spend scrolling on social media every day there are photos of couples, quotes about love, thirst traps, […]

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Grieving the mother you never had

This will be my first full year without my mom. She’s around, somewhere living her best life. I’m trying to do the same, but I have to do it without her. Mother/daughter relationships can be complex. They go through phases. As a teen, mom knows nothing, as a adult you find out mom was always […]

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How the best date I ever went on was at Popeyes

We got there on a wing and a prayer let me tell you! I was living in Wilmington, North Carolina a town 6 miles from the Atlantic Ocean. The only thing more scarce here than men is a good one, here’s how it went down! So it’s almost midnight and we’re talking on the phone, […]

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Boy Crazy: You don’t need a man to be whole

We’ve all been there. Dancing in the middle of the club with your head on the swivel trying to see who’s checking you out. Or how about my fave, getting dressed up to go sit at a bar and hope Prince Charming “randomly” sits next to you and sweeps you off your feet. Been there. […]

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What to do when you’ve been ghosted

If you’ve never been ghosted before, lucky you. Ghosting is…how do I describe this…ghosting is…horrible! It’s not limited to this definition but basically it’s when you’ve been dating someone, everything is fine then out of the blue they just disappear…like you never knew them. Like a ghost. People have a lot of reasons for why […]

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When my date said ‘black women have bad attitudes’

I thought swiping right on Tinder was finally going to pay off, but I can’t make this stuff up. Moving to North Carolina had brought me many firsts, this being one of the more disturbing. I had a date with a guy out of Fayettville the one night. He was 6’4″ dark chocolate, big, bald […]

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Why cutting people out your life is good for you, and them

It’s a new year and some people got cut off long before 2019. It’s for the best, but I learned cutting people out of your life is not just good for you, it’s good for them too. I had a friend and we did everything together. Man, we had so many adventures. I could write […]

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