Category: Adulting
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Read this when you’re over 30 and don’t know what you’re doing with life
As I approach my mid-30s I’m beginning to wonder, is it time to settle down? I’m in that weird stage where I’m not young enough to be lost but not old enough to have it all figured out. Or am I? Should I know what I’m doing by now? Ok, let’s not get ahead of…
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Read this when you struggle to do what you love
If you’re a writer you write, right? Even when it hurts. After all, someone said great art comes from great pain. Look at the work of Mary J. Blige and Adele. Mary’s song “Just Fine” doesn’t hit like “Not Gon’ Cry” and Adele’s “Someone Like You” or “Set Fire to the Rain” need I say…
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How to go out and turn up alone
The days of waiting for others is over! You know you can go out by yourself right? 8 times out of 10 when people want to hang out I’m secretly hoping they decide to cancel plans. But the occasion I want to go out and dance or have a drink, everyone is busy. This was…
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The joys and pains of moving to a new city alone
Moving to a new city is stressful, even more so when you do it alone. I’ve heard people say “you can reinvent yourself” or “you get a clean slate” but for me, I want to be the same person wherever I go. To me, having a clean slate means having to start all over again…
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Michelle Obama’s smile helped me accept mine
For so long my smile has been my insecurity. It’s not straight, it’s not perfect. I had a guy tell me he’d be with me if it was straight and perfect. You know when you’re breaking up and you yell all the bad things you’ve been holding on to. I wore braces from 8th grade…
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How being black in Phoenix made me love my culture more
In a city full of 1,626,078 people only 108,846 are Black or African American. In the county, Maricopa, where all major cities including Phoenix settle in there’s 4.24 million people and only 221,266 are Black or African American. I spent 30 years of my life growing up in Atlanta, a city that’s full of 486,290…
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10 tips for moving across the country
Originally from Atlanta I recently moved from “Tha A” to North Carolina, now I’m living in Phoenix, Arizona. Here are some tips I have if you plan to move across the country. 1. Get your credit score up. When I moved to North Carolina in 2015 it was similar to living in Georgia.…
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Why cutting people out your life is good for you, and them
It’s a new year and some people got cut off long before 2019. It’s for the best, but I learned cutting people out of your life is not just good for you, it’s good for them too. I had a friend and we did everything together. Man, we had so many adventures. I could write…
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How to survive being alone for Thanksgiving
You don’t have family to spend Thanksgiving with? I’ve got some tips for you. My experience with homelessness and moving away from family led me to spend many Thanksgiving holidays alone. The hardest part about being alone for the holidays is, being alone. Holidays are deemed a time for family and friends, it’s easy to…
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On being the ‘only one’ at Donald Trump, Mike Pence rallies
Disclaimer: The only side I’m taking is mine… I’m Atlanta born and raised, while I’ve grown up in the south my entire life it was a bit of a shock to be in a room of hundreds of people and be the only person who looked like me (besides a couple secret service and videographers).…